https://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.comPowered by Jellypod (https://www.jellypod.com)Fri, 29 May 2026 16:24:59 GMTThu, 27 Nov 2025 04:29:23 GMTyes2a054bb4-e8a6-4bbf-b5a9-66d51a2e7f12RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseThis book comes from experience, not research. I raised two sons using these frameworks. They became capable adults. That's my evidence. I have no controlled studies, no peer-reviewed publications, no academic credentials in child development or psycholoThis book comes from experience, not research. I raised two sons using these frameworks. They became capable adults. That's my evidence. I have no controlled studies, no peer-reviewed publications, no academic credentials in child development or psychology. I'm a family physician who paid attention to what worked. What I offer here are thinking tools - frameworks that helped me navigate parenting decisions consistently over thirty years. They're grounded in my understanding of Erikson's developmental stages and my own observation, but I make no academic claims about them. Every child is different. Every family operates in different circumstances. Every parent brings their own history, values, and constraints. The frameworks in this book are meant to help you think through your situations, not to prescribe universal solutions. These frameworks work - not because they guarantee results, but because they give you a way to think clearly when parenting feels chaotic. They helped me. They may help you.That's the honest claim I can make.serialRAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye Oyelesefeed+40a835aa@podcasts.jellypod.comfalsehttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/bdf36ee6-c24e-4018-9081-8fa4e02652d9bdf36ee6-c24e-4018-9081-8fa4e02652d9Fri, 28 Nov 2025 19:16:02 GMT8RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese shares the story of his unexpected discovery of blindness as a child, using it to introduce powerful frameworks for parenting that focus on nurturing capability through challenge. This episode lays the foundation for understanding how chiDr. Toye Oyelese shares the story of his unexpected discovery of blindness as a child, using it to introduce powerful frameworks for parenting that focus on nurturing capability through challenge. This episode lays the foundation for understanding how children develop strengths—and how parents can support them by guiding, not solving.false00:09:14fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/828ce80c-014b-458e-9599-f870d9d4801d828ce80c-014b-458e-9599-f870d9d4801dFri, 28 Nov 2025 19:19:10 GMT7RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese unpacks Erikson’s influential developmental stages by explaining childhood as a quest—where each stage presents your child with a life challenge and a reward only they can earn by overcoming it themselves. Learn how your role as a parent Dr. Toye Oyelese unpacks Erikson’s influential developmental stages by explaining childhood as a quest—where each stage presents your child with a life challenge and a reward only they can earn by overcoming it themselves. Learn how your role as a parent is to guide, support, and provide the right environment, not to solve these challenges for your child. Thoughtful stories and practical insights illuminate how true capabilities are built through real experience.false00:09:29fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/b69fad30-91fb-4c09-bbe5-1011d4c11de5b69fad30-91fb-4c09-bbe5-1011d4c11de5Fri, 28 Nov 2025 19:23:06 GMT6RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese explores how parents can manage their own fears to help their children navigate challenges and build independence. By naming fears, seeking real information, and guiding children through discomfort, parents can model courage and foster reDr. Toye Oyelese explores how parents can manage their own fears to help their children navigate challenges and build independence. By naming fears, seeking real information, and guiding children through discomfort, parents can model courage and foster resilience. Real-life stories and practical frameworks show how to make informed decisions without letting anxiety take the wheel.false00:09:58fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/8319d81b-2283-4a5b-a841-91686f08e1858319d81b-2283-4a5b-a841-91686f08e185Fri, 28 Nov 2025 19:25:50 GMT5RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese shares real-life stories and practical advice to help parents understand the subtle but crucial difference between supporting their child's growth and inadvertently fostering dependency. Through personal anecdotes, developmental psychologDr. Toye Oyelese shares real-life stories and practical advice to help parents understand the subtle but crucial difference between supporting their child's growth and inadvertently fostering dependency. Through personal anecdotes, developmental psychology, and examples from everyday parenting, this episode empowers families to foster true capability and resilience in their children.false00:10:46fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/e4f6aeaf-500f-47c6-bbed-f75a5470cf4ee4f6aeaf-500f-47c6-bbed-f75a5470cf4eFri, 28 Nov 2025 19:54:24 GMT4RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese explores why a child’s relationship with themselves underlies all other relationships, how parents can facilitate—not substitute—this self-knowledge, and the practical challenges of letting go. Concrete examples from Toye’s life and parenDr. Toye Oyelese explores why a child’s relationship with themselves underlies all other relationships, how parents can facilitate—not substitute—this self-knowledge, and the practical challenges of letting go. Concrete examples from Toye’s life and parenting ground this foundational framework for raising capable children.false00:10:14fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/49339ff2-6ac9-4f82-8545-4a4b841cd60849339ff2-6ac9-4f82-8545-4a4b841cd608Fri, 28 Nov 2025 19:57:34 GMT3RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese lays out the Process Method—how parents can focus on daily tasks that align with the capabilities they desire for their children. Rather than chasing after perfect outcomes, this episode explores how small, consistent actions compound intDr. Toye Oyelese lays out the Process Method—how parents can focus on daily tasks that align with the capabilities they desire for their children. Rather than chasing after perfect outcomes, this episode explores how small, consistent actions compound into lifelong competence and independence.false00:10:03fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/eefe96b8-4386-447c-ae0d-d875df92b570eefe96b8-4386-447c-ae0d-d875df92b570Fri, 28 Nov 2025 20:00:41 GMT2RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese breaks down the Rules Framework—a four-step tool to help parents and children navigate frustrating systems strategically rather than reactively. With personal stories and real-life examples, this episode illustrates how understanding and Dr. Toye Oyelese breaks down the Rules Framework—a four-step tool to help parents and children navigate frustrating systems strategically rather than reactively. With personal stories and real-life examples, this episode illustrates how understanding and leveraging any system's rules can empower kids to make effective decisions, even when the game feels unfair.false00:11:31fullhttps://navigating-uncertainty-a-a5scwh.jellypod.com/episodes/93272989-4959-4388-9616-41a24aa3171d93272989-4959-4388-9616-41a24aa3171dFri, 28 Nov 2025 20:06:47 GMT1RAISING THE CAPABLE CHILD By Dr. Toye OyeleseDr. Toye Oyelese unpacks the heart of healthy parent-child relationships—how to distinguish unconditional love from earned respect, create true value alignment, and guide children toward capability and independence. With vivid stories and practical framewDr. Toye Oyelese unpacks the heart of healthy parent-child relationships—how to distinguish unconditional love from earned respect, create true value alignment, and guide children toward capability and independence. With vivid stories and practical frameworks from his own journey, Dr. Oyelese reveals what your relationship is actually building for the future.false00:10:11full